Linkedin Tips & Strategies

How to Cold Message on LinkedIn for Networking

By Spencer Lanoue
November 12, 2025

Sending a LinkedIn connection request can feel a bit like shouting into the void, hoping someone on the other side hears you. It's the starting line for building your professional network, but if your message is generic or pushy, you won't even make it past the first step. This guide breaks down exactly how to craft cold messages that people not only open but actually want to respond to, helping you build real relationships instead of just a list of connections.

Why Most LinkedIn Cold Messages Fail (And How to Fix It)

Let's be honest: your LinkedIn inbox is probably filled with messages that made you cringe. They’re full of a desperate, salesy energy or are so bland they’re instantly forgettable. The biggest mistake people make is treating cold outreach as a one-sided transaction - they focus entirely on what they want to get rather than what they can give.

The "Me, Me, Me" message sounds like this: "Hi, I am a sales executive at a fast-growing SaaS company and I help businesses like yours increase their revenue. Could we schedule a 15-minute call next week to discuss our services?" It’s all about the sender and instantly asks for the recipient’s time.

A successful approach flips the script. Instead of asking for a favor right away, your goal is to offer something of value, start a conversation, and build a relationship based on mutual professional respect to grow your LinkedIn network. A "You, You, You" message focuses entirely on the recipient, showing you've taken the time to understand who they are and what they care about.

Step 1: Lay the Groundwork with Smart Research

A truly effective cold message is built on a foundation of solid research. Personalization isn’t just about using a [First Name] tag, it’s about proving you’ve done your homework. Five minutes of investigation can make the difference between an ignored request and an enthusiastic "Yes, let's connect!"

Profile Reconnaissance

Your first stop should always be their profile. It’s a goldmine of information waiting to be used, and a great place to optimize your LinkedIn profile. Scan for hooks you can use to start a conversation:

  • Recent Activity: Check what they’ve posted, shared, or commented on recently. Sharing an opinion or praising a specific insight from one of their posts is one of the easiest and most effective ways to open a dialogue.
  • The "About" Section: People often use this space to share their professional philosophy, accomplishments, or even personal interests. It can give you a feel for their personality and values.
  • Work History and Accomplishments: Note any recent promotions, work anniversaries, or major projects they've highlighted. Congratulating someone on a recent success is always a welcome gesture.
  • Common Ground: Look for shared connections, alma maters, previous employers, or groups. These connections provide an immediate, subtle sense of trust and community.

Company-Level Insights

Zoom out and look at what their company is up to. This shows you’re not just interested in them as an individual but that you also understand the broader context of their work.

  • Check the company’s LinkedIn page for recent product launches, milestones, or press announcements.
  • Read recent news articles about the company. Did they just secure a new round of funding? Are they expanding into a new market?
  • Look at their careers page. Mentioning an interesting open role can show you're paying attention to their team's growth.

Step 2: Nailing the Connection Request Note

You only have 300 characters to make a good first impression. This isn’t the place for your life story or a detailed sales pitch. The sole purpose of the connection request note is to get them to click "Accept." Keep it short, personal, and give them a clear, simple reason why you're reaching out.

Formulas for Simple, Effective Connection Notes

Your goal is to be specific and genuine. Vague compliments like "I'd love to connect" or "I admire your work" are forgettable. Instead, use your research to find a specific anchor point.

Example 1: The Content-Based Opener

"Hi Sarah, I really enjoyed your article on sustainable brand marketing. Your point about packaging as brand identity was spot on. I'm also in the CPG space and would love to follow your insights."

Why it works: It’s specific, gives a genuine compliment, and provides context for the connection.

Example 2: The Shared Ground Opener

"Hi David, I saw we’re both members of the 'Fintech Innovators' group. I work in product design for a similar startup and have been impressed with your team's recent mobile app launch. Would be great to connect."

Why it works: It establishes immediate common ground and demonstrates genuine interest in their work.

Example 3: The Mutual Connection Opener

"Hi Michael, our mutual connection, Jane Doe, mentioned you recently in our conversation about podcasting trends. She spoke very highly of your production work. Looking forward to connecting."

Why it works: Social proof is powerful. By mentioning a shared contact, you leverage a trusted relationship to build instant credibility.

Step 3: The Art of the Follow-Up Message

Once they accept your request, the real work begins. The follow-up message is where you move from a connection to a conversation and truly engage on LinkedIn. Don’t rush it - wait a day or so before following up, but don’t wait so long that they forget who you are. The goal is to thank them for connecting and seamlessly continue the conversation you started in your note.

The PAVE Framework for Natural Follow-Ups

Rather than sending a wall of text that makes a big "ask," focus on a structure that encourages a response. PAVE stands for Personalize, Add Value, and End with a Question.

P: Personalize

Start by referencing the "why" from your connection request. This reinforces that you’re not just a random contact and makes the conversation feel continuous.

"Thanks for connecting, Maria! As I mentioned, I was so impressed with your presentation at the Digital Summit."

A: Add Value

This is the most important part. Offer something useful without asking for anything in return. This demonstrates generosity and positions you as a helpful resource, not just another person wanting something. Value can come in many forms:

  • Share a resource: "Speaking of your passion for team productivity, I just read a fascinating HBR article on async work styles that I thought you'd appreciate. Here's the link."
  • Offer an observation: "I noticed your company is expanding into the LATAM market. My old team went through a similar process, and we found that localizing our ad creative was the single biggest driver of early success. Something to maybe keep in mind!"
  • Introduce someone (carefully): "Since you’re building out your engineering team, I know a fantastic senior developer who is looking for a new role. Happy to make an intro if you're open to it."

E: End With a Low-Stakes Question

Finally, end your message with a simple, open-ended question that’s easy for them to answer. The key is to make it low-effort. Avoid asking an immediate yes/no question or requesting a 30-minute call. Instead, ask something that invites their opinion or expertise.

  • "What was the most challenging part of preparing that presentation?"
  • "From your perspective, what's been the biggest surprise about your new market expansion so far?"
  • "Out of curiosity, what resources does your team turn to for staying updated on AI trends?"

LinkedIn Cold Message Templates for Different Scenarios

Remember, these are starting points, not scripts. The magic comes from adapting them with your unique research and personality.

Template 1: Reaching Out to a Potential Mentor

Connection Request:
"Hi [Name], I've been following your career journey from [Old Company] to [New Company] and I'm so inspired by your work in [Their Field]. As a new PM, I’d be grateful for the chance to connect and learn from your experience."

Follow-Up Message:
"Hi [Name], thanks for connecting. I especially admire how you managed the [Specific Project] launch - that product solved a genuine user problem. I know you're busy, but I'd love to ask just one question: what's a piece of advice you wish you'd received early in your product management career?"

Template 2: Networking with an Event Speaker

Connection Request:
"Hi [Name], loved your keynote on [Topic] at [Event Name]! Your insights on [Specific Insight] really reshaped my thinking. Would love to connect."

Follow-Up Message:
"Thanks for connecting! I'm already using your advice on [Specific Point] with my own team. Your presentation made me think of this case study from [Company] that seems to confirm your theory - thought you might find it interesting. [Link]"

What Not to Do: Common Cold Messaging Pitfalls

Just as important as knowing what to do is knowing what to avoid. Steer clear of these common mistakes:

  • The premature sales pitch. The fastest way to get ignored is to treat the first message as a sales demo.
  • Vague compliments. Statements like "You have a great profile" are meaningless. Get specific or don't say it?
  • Making the first message about your needs. Don't open with "I'm looking for a job" or "I want to pick your brain."
  • Asking for their time immediately. Build rapport first. Earn the right to ask for a call.
  • Aggressive follow-ups. If they don't reply, don't hound them. Give it some time and perhaps try again later with a different value touchpoint, or simply move on.

Final Thoughts

Effective networking on LinkedIn is a long-term game built on generosity and authenticity. It’s less about a perfect template and more about a mindset shift - from focusing on what you need to understanding what you can give. By dedicating a few minutes to being thoughtful and human, you can cut through the noise and start conversations that genuinely accelerate your career.

As you get better at this, you'll find yourself managing dozens of new conversations. At Postbase, we believe managing relationships shouldn't be fragmented or chaotic. We built a unified social media inbox that brings all your comments and DMs, including those from LinkedIn, into one simple, centralized view. This lets you stay on top of those important new conversations without letting anything fall through the cracks, so you can focus on building the relationships themselves.

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Spencer's spent a decade building products at companies like Buffer, UserTesting, and Bump Health. He's spent years in the weeds of social media management—scheduling posts, analyzing performance, coordinating teams. At Postbase, he's building tools to automate the busywork so you can focus on creating great content.

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